Do you use any particular techniques or chosen mind sets to repel negative energy thrown upon you by an old friend or even someone close to you?
More specifically, I just encountered this situation since starting my journey to positive thinking and a loving mindset. I know this was a test and I’m having an issue with honestly letting it go that this person was very judgmental towards me, my family and my life “decisions”. I told her everyone takes their own path and no decision is really right or wrong and that she’s entitled to her opinion. I tried to point out nicely that my life decisions (and events) are mine and my family’s and do not directly affect her or her family.
I have always greeted our differences with an open mind and heart, and have always responded to anything negative with a positive open minded statement. She just continued to try and justify her judgements and even went very personal and basically said that this new life that is arriving soon (my little girl, my second child) would’ve been better off as a miscarriage.
Now, I know this is all very childish and clearly she is hurting deep inside (she had trouble conceiving and her husband won’t try for another baby that she’s been wanting for the last year). There may or may not be a hint of jealousy. I don’t know. I do know that she is accustomed to throwing judgements. In fact she spends most of her time complaining and judging.
Anyway, back to the point. I’m having a hard time not becoming “petty” and throwing judgements back on her to my close friends and others such as yourself for example. I’m not really trying to vent or complain or judge even if I don’t notice fully that I indeed am. I can’t seem to find the right words but I think you will know what I’m asking.
First thing to understand is that the negativity you experience in your life is entirely self created. It’s in the DNA before we are born and added to by what we think, do, feel, believe. It’s not always our conscious fault, but please keep in mind, if someone does not already possess a victim mentality or flaw, no one can victimize them.
Recognize the energy field which caused you to be unbalanced by this person’s perception/judgement/output. You are right, it is a test, set up by you. A balanced person will not allow the negativity around them to affect them.
I keep my circle pretty small and close, just for this reason. I didn’t make the actual energy field changes until a few years ago. I myself was faced with a situation where people were reacting negatively to their perception of someone else’s negativity. I used breathing exercises to regulate the physiological processes of emotion. I refrained from gossip by always drawing attention back to the self. What is it in US that is causing us to experience this? And so on.
Once you are strong in your sense of self and have claimed your power, the energy field shifts. It can still fluctuate, but is no longer so easily unbalanced. I only get “attacked” anymore when I am unsure of my footing, ideas, beliefs, self. When I am in my core self’s power, my energy field repels them from acting as they would have with me in the past or they do with others now.
So evaluate what it was she was picking on you about. gain an understanding of how truly firm and settled you are in your beliefs, your truths, that which is right for you.
Also, it is entirely OK to feel hurt by her. Acknowledge that, accept it, don’t squash it into energy field blocks by converting your hurt feelings into anger at her which you then must suppress because “spiritual people are not allowed to have bad feelings”. This causes disease. Let yourself cry about it if you have to, then let her go, let your idea of the importance of her judgement in your life go.
Maybe even look upon her as a direct reflection, or facet of yourself (as you are having trouble not reacting in the same manner). Make a thought ceremony of it. Identify with her as a human, light child, self, with pain, with anger, with jealousy, with frustration. Have compassion and understanding. Then when all of that has accumulated to a climax within yourself let her/it go. Blow her away out of your hands, or out of your mind, out of your energy field. Send it all to the Light (or the Void) for transmutation.
When we make ‘shields’ we separate. When we allow, we unify. Our job here now is to take all the boiling anger, the trauma, and frustration and meet/mete it with a stillness, an allowance, which we can absorb into us, process bodily via our own emotions, and then allow to move on. When we do this instead of reacting, lashing out, and so on, then the energy behind that is vanished, absorbed, transmuted. Deep breaths it takes, and whole body acceptance that you are going to be feeling uncomfortable things as you allow their negativity to move through you which will summon up your own negativity for processing. Resisting it, squirming under it only makes it more uncomfortable and insistent that you recognize it and allow it to pass.
Please let me know if you need any more clarification of details or more specific techniques.
Wow, what a response indeed.
I feel that I tend to be very sensitive to those around me even if I don’t know them so I’ve spent a lot of time trying to build a sort of shield but have come to realize over and over again that I “failed” at doing that. I just have a hard time denying what my inner self has always done so naturally which is let people (energy) in and I’m now seeing that maybe what you just described is exactly the “road block” (as I self described it). It’s not a block at all but a sort of point I was missing intellectually, but not emotionally or even spiritually.
What you have said thus far is making sense to me and giving me a lot more to think about and meditate on. Thank you! I now know something specific I can work on and at least partially maybe how to work on my perception. I believe, and always have felt, that we are all “one” but have come across various “road blocks” over my years when trying to connect what I learn to be true and how to appropriate it in daily life and use what I’ve learned. I just read though what you wrote once so I will have to take it piece by piece and give it a bit more thought.
Thank you so much! I feel like a window has been opened that I wasn’t even aware of even though it was right in front of me. You just made my day.